The water tempest awakes
The waves crashing my ship
The wind swirls in my face
The wheel firmly in grip
The destination may have been set
But I ache to explore
I want to play on the jets
Not quickly anchor at shore
This weather may capsize me tonight
Splintered wood will be left
But I’ll have seen all the sights
Without a hint of regret
You described how it is to dive
In an unknown, remote cave
But I can only feel alive
If I go and do the same
This map I clutch I have ignored
Though it surely would be of help
With a shrug I throw it overboard
I think I want to draw one myself


The journey is far more important than the beginning or the end.

A journey should be embarked upon out of a joy for what you are unexpectedly going to discover. It should be voluntary, not forced. It should be riddled with excitement for what you will see, hear, touch and feel that you haven’t before. It should allow your imagination to run wild. Its worth should not be measured by its outcome. When you play in a sandbox, you are experimenting with what you are capable of and makes you tick. However it concludes does not have a bearing on the journey itself. When the end is your only focus, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Revel in the journey, savor in the surprise.

When shortcuts are taken, or help is required, the experience is tainted. You have a much more profound understanding of what you’ve discovered when you are able to do it on your own at your own pace. It certainly will take longer, but every obstacle and challenge will be vividly remembered and appreciated. What you learn can be applied to countless situations. Having something handed to you does not come without cost, you’ve relinquished your right to a feeling of accomplishment.

Having your own experience allows you to come to your own conclusions. You needn’t rely on descriptions provided by others, unless they are taken with a grain of salt and are meant to further calibrate your own opinion. It is impossible for someone else to put themselves in your shoes in such a way that their experience can be a substitute for your own. Your mind is absolutely unique. Nobody who has ever lived or will ever live can duplicate the exact reaction you have when you experience something. Skipping that experience is not only detrimental to yourself, but cheats the world of the viewpoint you can bring to the table, the unique interpretation you’ve created.

It is natural to want to reap the rewards of an effort sooner rather than later. It is also natural to forget what you learned in the process when met with failure, and instead look for blame. If you change your mindset to one of adventure, where the focus is on what you will discover, your momentum to attack new challenges will never run out. There will never be a sense of boredom. Any success will be welcomed, then set aside as you start anew. Any failure will just be an invitation to try again.


Situational Questions

  • Are you ruining the surprise for someone else? Would it not be a greater reward to be a silent observer and share the joy they will feel when they discover it on their own? What do you gain, and what do they lose, from your desire to be recognized in their journey?
  • Are you dissuading someone from having their own experience based on your recollection of what you went through? Would you rather have your opinion validated without opposition? What if they see it differently than you?


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