Doubt

My hand it clenches on this door knob
The bag I’ve packed around my shoulder
It still is nice inside this warm loft
The wind outside it seems much colder
He says he loves me more than life
That he can’t live without me present
But then I must bring out the knife
When he starts to lose his senses
My eye was blackened with his reach
And I chose to take no more
Though his touch is soft, his voice is sweet
When I get up from the floor
His temper rages with a snap
I never see it coming
He says I won’t be hard to track
If I ever think of running
I crack the door with just a sliver
To breathe in the chilly air
And though my body starts to quiver
I know I must go anywhere but here

 

When you make a decision, and circumstances have not changed, stick to it.

Your decisions should not be influenced by unsolicited opinions of others. It may be the case that you require information from others to help reach a decision, but any opinion should be taken with a grain of salt. In the end, it is your vision and your own instinct that must be followed.

Doubt can often arise when choosing to leave a situation of comfort. The uncertainty of the new environment is weighed against the consistency of what you are accustomed to. But, there must be a reason that caused you to come to the choice in the first place. That reason doesn’t change, the circumstances leading to that reason often do not change, only your own doubt begins to creep in. Do not let your focus be taken off the goal you have laid out for yourself. Additionally, you may even feel a sense of loyalty or obligation to the people that share or helped create those comfortable surroundings. That loyalty needn’t diminish, and it will most likely be reciprocated with an encouragement to follow your desires. If not, and you are vilified for your choice, you must ask whether their selfish demand for obedience should be a cause for renewing your doubt, or eliminating it altogether.

Doubt is easy. It takes no effort to second guess yourself, but it takes great strength to stay focused on an achievable goal and not let anything outside of that goal sway you. Threats, promises, panic all tug at a decision every which way in hopes of taking your eye off the goal the decision is meant to achieve.

This goal must be a clear and honest one. Breaking the pattern of doubt should not translate into a stubbornness that prevents you from being agile. You must be able to steer your decision in a better trajectory towards the goal. If your decision was based on particular information, and that information has changed, then the decision should be carefully and deliberately reviewed.

Sifting through what might be a mountain of information can be difficult. Know that your decision was based on very few things, like your end goal and aspects of your circumstances related to that goal. Doubt is often introduced when there is an erroneous focus on extra information that didn’t even have a bearing on the original decision. When the source of doubt is another person, they tend to focus on information they have control over. When an honest decision is made, it is normally based on information the decision maker has control over.

 

Situational Questions

  • Do you feel the step you’re going to take might be the wrong one? If so, so what? When you look back, will you regret having stepped forward and taken a chance, or will you regret having stood still in wonder? What will cut deeper, the infinite expanse of what could have been, or the certainty of what did occur?
  • Have you been given an ultimatum from a person that forces you to choose between them and someone else? Is that other person giving you the same ultimatum? If not, would you rather maintain a relationship with someone who made you choose, or one who understood you enough to give you freedom?

 

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